According to experts who deal with communication, cyber bullying and traditional playground bullying are very different. However what is it which makes this so? The following are some of the major differences between the two:

1. The victim in cyber bullying is defenceless and is exposed to the bullying at home as well
2. The victim cannot hide and cyber bullying can occur quickly and spread fast
3. A number of mediums of communication can be utilized to engage in cyber bullying
4. 90% of the time, the bully is someone the victim knows but is unable to identify since the identity of the bully is kept hidden
5. While online, almost everyone tends to engage in some form of cyber bullying which could include posting an objectionable picture online to posting some comment
6. Because of the anonymity associated with cyber bullying, it has the chance of occurring for longer periods of time
7. It is seen to be more damaging than simple bullying or teasing as the data about the victim is made public which can further increase the number of bullies who bother the victim

Apart from being different in the manner it is conducted and apart from being more damaging, it also has its own terms associated with it which describe the variety of cyber bullying which exists. The following are some of these divisions which have been talked about by the New York State’s Division of Criminal Justice Services:

• Denigration:  within this, damaging rumors are spread, secrets tend to be disclosed and made public through posting online which could damage the reputation of the individual
• Exclusion: this involves Excluding the victim on purpose from any activities and groups online
• Flaming: this consists of bombarding cruel, vulgar or even rude messages or emails on to the victim.
• Happy Slapping: within this, physical attacks are conducted on the victim in some embarrassing manner while someone else takes pictures of the act being committed. These pictures are then either posted online and even sent to others
• Impersonation: in this form of cyber bullying, the bully pretends to be someone he isn’t and creates a fake id simply for the purpose of sending or posting material online which is damaging for the victim and does so with the intent to harass the victim or to damage his reputation
• Outing: spreading messages or pictures over the internet about the victim which contain information which is private, sensitive and embarrassing to the victim
• Text Wars/Attacks: constantly engaging in and troubling the victim by sending him mean text messages and emails.

It is important for parents to be aware of all this because it is their children who get robbed of their innocence and joys when they are cyber bullied mostly because of the lack of adult supervision. Not many parents are well associated with the language which teens use online today and many continue to not be up to date with the technology either. Thus, in order to deal with this problem, parents need to familiarize themselves and get on top of the issue.

my story about me when i was bullied in school

i was bullied in school started in third grade up till i was in the 9th grade. i got picked on a lot on school. so i know what it is like to get bullied. i had some friends but not a lot. i basically kept to myself in school. and it did not help that my own brother picked on me to in school. kids picked on me i was different from them and i knew it. i have a speech problem and sometimes you really can't understand me when i get to excited. i always had to repeat what i said because everyone did not understand me what i said. and i had problems saying some words. yes i may be different that didn't matter to me because i knew god made me the way i am and he had a reason, a plan and a purpose for me in life. i would come home every day crying because i got picked on, all my mom could do is talk to the teachers and principle but that never helped at all. all it did was made it worse. i even told the teachers and that didn't work so i kept quiet and some of my friends i had always took up for me. i got picked on in middle school and in high school. high school was the worse for me so when i got into the 9th grade i dropped out of school because i could not handle it any more. the thing is i have seizures too. and everytime i would have a seizure in school everyone was nice to me for a day and then they would turn around and be picking on me again. so i dropped out of school. yes i miss my prom and graduation and i regret that i did dropped out of school. i wish i never did.

i don't recommend any one to drop out of school. stick up for yourself and others. be their friend. there is more to my story i will have to post more of my story later. i look at life this way we all are beautiful in our own way in life. we all have a voice and we should all speak up against bulling. i wish they had done this when i was in school.

 

Hello, my name is Ellamore and I'm currently 17 years old. I have been bullied for quite a while and until recently, can I say that the wounds on my heart are closing. Slowly but healing. The scars on my body and my mind are even greater. One day I hope to be free from my past and that I can move forward on my own, while having my friends next to me.

It all began in elementry school. I was about 7 years old when things started to change. My classmate began to shut me out, calling me names such as: "fat ass, potatoe, ugly" and many others. At the end of elementry school had I no friends left and was I alone with out any self esteem. In high school did my life take the worst turn. After being 3 months in class noticed that I was different and because of that was I pushed away and the name calling began again.

In my second year made I a big mistake.  Because I had no way of letting everything out kept I everything cropped up inside me. And on one day was it too much for me and couldn't I take it anymore. I was numb al the time and when I found a way too release the numbness was it already too late. By that time had I made the first cut on my body, and something in me knew that there way no way back anymore. This contiued for at least 3 years.

I was so sick of feeling alone that I had planned a suicide. Everything was planned into every single detail. A week before the suicide date received I a invite to a birthday party. At first didn't I wanted to go, thinking about the thing what the could do to me. But something in me told me to go, I canceled my suicide and went to the party. I was very nervous to be around 6 people in one room. But after the party met I quite often the host of the party. At first was I really reserved and quiet not knowing what to except. The more we met the livier it became, and eventually told I her a big part of what had happened in my past. I was able to smile again, not having to worry to be 'unseen'. We both have felt loneley and had the feeling of being left out. But I think because of that... Is it that what made us best-friends.

After entering a new school found I 2 more friends and they may not know everything about me yet, but I trust them and I hope the four of us can even go futher in our friendship. So that we can spend our time having fun. And I can proudly say "I will survive"

But there is still a huge part inside of me who lives in the darkness, and reminds me of how weak I am. The lightness around me have touched me deeply, thank to that am I able to say: "No, I'm not completly fine yet, but I know with the way I am going know that I will be". 

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This is my past, present and future. Because after all the things I went trough can I only say "Thank You, my dearest friends".

Ellamore Devill (Pen-Name)

It stared way back in kindergarten, being picked on because of my weight and stuff.Second grade same reasons and being accused of thinking better of myself.Third grade me and my family moved to a different city and got picked on for liking a kid.The guy I liked was the top dog and bullied the heck out of me with his friends.By that time I had one friend after 3 months at the new school.Teens and kids would make threats, disturbing threats on the buses I'd ride.During lunch kids would tell me to kill myself and I was only around 9.I believed I wanted to die too.I had very few friends, but I got by with my friends and music.Fourth grade was if'y 'cause kids would "prank" me and throw eraser shavings at me.In fifth grade, I had missed so much school that year, and I was finally diagnosed with depression.I got held back at that grade, but I had made new friends.I guess I actually never got very close with anyone though.I still struggle with school and kinda trusting people.Yeah, and that's my background on bullying.

I have been bullied for quite a while actually. Everything that happened to me in such a few years, I regret that I ever fell for their tricks.

It all began at my first year of high school, everything seemed perfect and I thought I finally had a friend for life! Well, I was wrong. When I got into my third year of high school everything went wrong. My "Best friend" left me just so she could be popular and I actually started to try to be popular myself! But how could I... I am a alternative girl, I always knew I was different then them. But still, I wanted to be one of them and tried everything... I couldn't lose my "Best friend"... I felt alone, hated and weird. No one wanted to be my friend and everyone kept laughing about the way I was.. I hated myself for being me and wished I was someone else.

But then, something inside me snapped. I couldn't take it anymore! I started to look at myself in the mirror and knew I had to just be myself... If they don't like me this way... Why should it be any difference if I started to finally be myself. And that's exactly what I did. I started to dress and act the way I should. I didn't care about them all anymore because now I finally feel happy!

 

I found a real best friend and got the best friends of the whole wide world... But even though I am finally happy, I will never get over the feeling of being alone... Its stuck inside me and will never go away until I'm ready to let go... But unfortunately, I'm still not ready. If my best friend goes out shopping with someone else, I actually feel lonely and betrayed even though it doesn't mean anything! That feeling is awful, horrible and terrible... And maybe one day I can finally let it go.

 

This is my story, about how my life changed forever. How I sometimes feel alone forever even though I have so many friends around.

Be strong everyone who is being bullied at the moment, just be yourself and you'll see that a true friend can never be far away.

Never give up <3

 

With dearest love written by,

 

Suzanne Hoek (Susan Hook/Susanne Hoek) The Dutch forever alone girl.

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If you want to see my transformation, mail to [email protected] and I'll show you how much I changed in 2 years.

 

hello my name is hannah and I was survived by bullied since 2007. I'm deaf by the way I was bullied at hearing school for being deaf so in 8th grade I moved to deaf school. I thought it would be new life and better life but I'm wrong. I moved to deaf school and kids are bullying at me for no reasons and I have been suffering, I report to my parents, staff at school, counselor, and principal at school. They do nothing at that time of period. I'm so weak to be ignore them, I have been think about kill myself few times. I develop depression and failing behind at school. At deaf school, being high school, I'm keep fighting to stop bullying, I keep report and asking for help. Teachers started to have slow processing but I got worst bullied during high school year in my freshman year. Physical bullied and voice bullied. I can't do anything because I'm so scare of anything. Bullied is conuitne until my junior year. I'm furious and really depressed and really want to die that time in 2011. But no I finally to learned to ignore them and not let them get me down. I'm learn to be strong and keep fight. In my senior year, staffs and teachers finally start up acting to do something. I doing better with education and successful with graduated, without bullies in my senior year. Because I learned to be strong and don't let them get me down. I realized I'm lucky to be alive instead kill myself. I'm glad I choose to stay alive and be successful. Enough is enough because I have been suffering bullied since 2007, why take forever to stop bullying? See a bully, STOP NOW, not waiting. My experience is awful, I don't want see any kids who suffering for long time the way I do. I want them to have better education with happy, stop bully now! Do something now!

So proud of my daughter, Alyssa, for creating a video to help kids titled "Dealing With Bullies". I couldn't be prouder with how confident she sounds, I only wish that I had been that confident at her young age. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yb-x3ZD-sB8

Hi, my name is Nicole. I am currently 22 years old. Since I was in Grade 5, I had people bully me. It didn't matter what I did or what I said, I was a "marked" target. In Grade 6 is when it started getting really bad. People spread rumours that I was into girls (please note I have no issue with people's sexual orientation), and one girl decided to beat me up for the fun of it. I had a teacher witness that the girl attacked me and the principal didn't want to hear it. So he suspended me. It got worse as I got to high school. The ridicule and the games they would play just made me cry desperately inside. I Couldn't take my life anymore so I attempted multiple attempts of suicide. I had random people walk up to me and tell me "I thought you were dead". It continued until I left town in Grade 11 and decided to rebuild my life. I now have moved back to the scene of the crime as you would say and have had multiple people tell me they are sorry for the stuff they did to me. Which to me, is like closer and it takes a lot for a person to apologize to you. I know now that bullying is wrong and I shouldn't have kept it to myself but I'm going to say one thing. As a kid you feel as if you tell your parents, then kids find you more as a target because your an" rat". You need to build a support system of friends to help you with the struggles you face.

As a victim of teasing and bullying as a child, I know all too well the effects teasing and bullying can have on a person. Bullying has become not only a problem with children, but with adults as well. I am doing my best to tackle this problem head on, but I need your help. I have written two childrens books on the anti bullying theme. The first one is titled " The Adventures of Kwungee and Uba Dooba Boy," and the second is titled " Eggy the Egg and the LBN ( let's be nice) club." It is my mission to get LBN ( lets be nice) clubs started in as many schools, neighborhoods and any organazation that deals with youth as possible. To reward schools or any other organazation that gets a club going and keeps it going, I am trying to get neighborhood business's in my area to support this drive by hopefully donating a gift certificate or other rewards. I urge you all to do the same in your area....even with the warm weather hopefully arriving soon, this can still go on....it does not have to be strictly a school activity and end when school breaks for the summer. Please bring this letter into your school or youth leader, and lets get started. Pass it on to your friends as well, together we can make a difference. I am making my plea nation wide by posting this on my Face book page as well please feel free to post on yours. If a business has any questions, please feel free to contact me. I am more than happy to discuss this with you. I get many messages on my professional Face book page every day from children and adults who are bullied....I can not sit and let this happen with out doing any thing. I ask you to please like my professional Face book page which is listed under Amy E. Madge. There you will find out more about me and my goals for my books. All my books are available on line, by tittle @ Amazon.com and Barnes and Noble.com.

Hello! I am Brazilian, and I can not speak English (laughs), but I would speak to my experience with bullying.
I was included in a last minute work, then I promised that in return, I teach math work. But it did not work, since we finished work very late and was to be delivered on the next day. This made them begin to judge me, call me stupid, false, and various other things very, very bad. My friend was defending me and I pretended not to care, was stirring in the cell. Before the three girls leave, one of them opened the door and yelled "you will be alone!" and slammed the door. I collapsed. I lost myself in tears and mourning. A year ago it happened. Two of the girls left school, but one remains and is a "friend," but I can not see her like that, because I can not forget the past. Thanks to my fear of sharp objects, never got around to self mutilate me. But I tried to kill myself. But I can not, because I always think of my family and talk to myself "I can not". Almost went into a depression. It moves a lot to me and I think never will overcome. I heard the girl who said I would be alone and walked away people, including my family. That hurts me. I can not stand this pain, but I have to move on and stay strong. This is my story.
My name is Ana Beatriz Andrade and I am 14 years old.