Hi my name is Anastasia Adams. And this is my bullying story.

         When I was in the 3rd grade i didn't know what bullying was. I thought the name calling and laughing was normal for some reason. It happened through out until 6th grade. In the 6th grade, my school was having a bullying assembly. What was bullying I thought to myself. They started the assembly and they were talking what was bullying was about and now I realized that I was getting bullied. I didn't know what to do. It stop after i went to my first day of Middle School.

         

Hello, my name is Anthony Coetzee, I am currently 17 & am struggling to cope with all that has happened, & all that is happening. It all started in 2007, my dad & my mom were having fights with each other all the time, & I was abused & bullied by my dad. I could not defent myself or do anything because I was too young, a year later, my mom commited fraudry (I suspect that this was to move away from my dad with me) but she was caught, when they tried to ask her why, she ran away. We found her a week later in a parking lot outside of a shopping mall, she has overdosed on a large amount of pills. By the end of her funeral service I was completely destroyed, I barely knew my father, he was never there for me. I only knew my mother. He carried on with his abuse & bullying until a few months ago when I lost my grandfather (his father), my grandfather become my role model after I lost my mom, he protected me, loved me, & was always there for me, I never saw a better father figure in my life, but I lost him recently due to cancer. I was alone & had nobody to count on for a long time, until I met my two new best friends Angelique & Alex. But I recently found out that Angelique has cancer too, & does not have long to live. I can't stand to lose anyone else, because she's the one person who knows everything about me, the only one who does, she knew of my suicide attempts, my cuts & scars, & not once did she judge me... Instead, she loved me, & I fell in love with her, but she refused to date me, because she doesn't want me to get hurt once her cancer catches up with her. I don't know how to deal with all this, I lose everyone I love, & I'm scared to love because of this, I was doing well at school & I had a fairly good life aside from my dads abuse. But it all caught up again & I can't bare to lose anyone else. I just can't lose her too. I can't.

Im a 16 year old girl and I no longer get bullied this is just explaining that just because the bullying stops not everything becomes ok straight away. Ive always been a tom boy that loves to play sport, ive never been a girl that wants to play with dolls or do makeup or interested in fashion, and would much rather hang out with boys and play games with them. Of course this was something people then decided to start bullying me about it. It all started in about year 4, things became real bad in year 5-6 girls and boys would call me lesbian (which i didnt even know what it meant at that age.) They would call me a fat overweight guy, they would point out the fact that i found school and reading especially difficult. I thought maybe cause i was good at sport they would like me because of that but that was just another reason they could call me lesbian and a guy because i played soccer instead of ballet. It got so bad i would go home crying everyday to mum just wishing i never had to go to school again, things never really changed until I moved in to high school. My point to this is it has been pretty much 5 years now since my bullying experience and I still have problems because of it. Getting called names and being tormented may not seem like a big deal but it is, its left me with huge trust issues with people not just kids but teachers and parents too. Bullying has led me to do things i never ever thought i would do, things im ashamed of and i cant forget how much pain my parents had/have to go through as they felt/feel so hopeless. My life is good now I have friends and schools ok, but i am definitely still affected by the words that came out of peoples mouths five years ago which have led to other battles i now have to fight.

Im a 16 year old girl and I no longer get bullied this is just explaining that just because the bullying stops not everything becomes ok straight away. Ive always been a tom boy that loves to play sport, ive never been a girl that wants to play with dolls or do makeup or interested in fashion, and would much rather hang out with boys and play games with them. Of course this was something people then decided to start bullying me about it. It all started in about year 4, things became real bad in year 5-6 girls and boys would call me lesbian (which i didnt even know what it meant at that age.) They would call me a fat overweight guy, they would point out the fact that i found school and reading especially difficult. I thought maybe cause i was good at sport they would like me because of that but that was just another reason they could call me lesbian and a guy because i played soccer instead of ballet. It got so bad i would go home crying everyday to mum just wishing i never had to go to school again, things never really changed until I moved in to high school. My point to this is it has been pretty much 5 years now since my bullying experience and I still have problems because of it. Getting called names and being tormented may not seem like a big deal but it is, its left me with huge trust issues with people not just kids but teachers and parents too. Bullying has led me to do things i never ever thought i would do, things im ashamed of and i cant forget how much pain my parents had/have to go through as they felt/feel so hopeless. My life is good now I have friends and schools ok, but i am definitely still affected by the words that came out of peoples mouths five years ago which have led to other battles i now have to fight.

With the advancements in the modern technology, it is no more difficult for one to keep an eye on the activities of his/her child. Now, this really is a big question, and must be answered comprehensively that is it ethical to spy on your child? Today, many people believe that there is nothing bad in it, and one may spy on his child’s activities online and offline, so that one may come to know if anything wrong is going on. On the other hand, there is a group who considers that it is unethical to spy on your child. They also make a notion that if you are spying on your child’s activities, you probably do not trust your kid.

What I think is that it is perfectly OK to keep an eye on what your teen is doing online, with whom he communicates through his cell phone, or where he has been throughout the day when he is away from home. Here I would like to present a number of different reasons in support of my view about the issue being discussed.

Spying or parental control?

Firstly, parents need to understand that keeping an eye on the kid’s activities, is not snooping! It is parental control! The reason is that parents do not intend to know about their child’s activities, just for the sake of spying or for some commercial intent. Rather, they have an intent to investigate if their child is indulged in some illicit or immoral activities offline or online. The intent is different altogether, so you first need to substitute the term snooping with parental control.

Protecting the child online

Cyberbullying is not a new term for us, and we also do know that kids happen to be the softest target for any cyber bully around. Most case studies also reveal that when a child is being bullied, he gets so much depressed that he does not discuss it with his parents, fearing that he may be scolded by his parents for interacting with the bully or may be due to the feeling that his parents would not trust him in case he share it with his parents. In such a situation, the only way you can come to know about the activities of your child is through monitoring his activities online through a parental control app.

Adult content online

I am sure all parents ‘strictly’ ask their teens, not to see any adult content published online. But the question is, is this strict advice enough to stop your children from viewing any obscene content on the internet? Certainly, it is not enough. Yes, you need to trust your child, but you also need to investigate if he is worth your trust. Summing up the argument, in order to make sure that your teen doesn’t view any vulgar content online, it is quite right for you to monitor his cell phone.

Physical location

Obviously, you cannot be with your child 24/7, as you also have a lot of tasks to execute.  You cannot exactly know if your child is in his school when he leaves home. So in order to know that whether or not your child is where he is supposed to be, it is perfectly fine if you monitor his cell phone.

Should I tell my child about it?

This question is also one of the most frequently discussed questions online. What I think is that it is better to tell your child that he or she is being monitored by you through a parental control app. This has two advantages. Firstly, it will strengthen the relation of trust between you and your child. Secondly, it will also hinder him from viewing any adult content on the internet or doing any such immoral activity offline or online.   

Concluding the discussion, it can be firmly asserted that there is nothing bad if you are spying on your child’s activities. Rather, it is a very good activity, which is beneficial for your child, as it ensures his safety, especially on the internet.  

I'm 17 and currently in high school as of 2015. By the time I graduate from high school, I'm going to the army to learn more. I love history, but I don't like seeing victims get hurt from bullying. I'm kinda a nerd in high school, and I kinda wanted to be friends that don't bully others. I watch films about bullying that inspires me, and It was kinda sad that students lost their lives from bullying each year. I hope their in a better place. I want to inspire everybody my story, and understand what I've been through

My name is Anna i am 14 years old and i was bullied in elementary school. People on my bus, mostly older guys, would make fun of me because i wear big glasses that make my eyes look bigger and that i weighed about 50 to 70 pounds from 3rd grade to 6th grade. They would call me "bug eyes" or "fore eyes" Then some girls would tell me I'm too skinny and that i should stop starving myself or i look like a twig, a feather, or a leaf but, none of it was my fault. I had a very high perscription for my eyes and I'm never hungry because i can't digest food as fast as other people. Soon i started to believe them and each day they bullied me, i would cry myself to sleep and i would ask myself, "Why can't i be normal like them? Why did i have to be born this way?" Later i went to my mom for help and she told me that the people who bully me are probably jealous and they obviously have nothing better to talk about so i must be more important than anything to them if they want to waste their time being mean to me.

Then i started 8th grade and i had so many friends because i listened to my mom when she told me to kill my enemies with kindness and to laugh when they're mean. So many of my past bullies are my friends now. I didn't notice until my step-dad pointed it out but, i became a bully. Sometimes i would catch myself saying mean things about people i don't like or maybe my own friends. One girl that i treat like a friend, i actually really don't like. Then i found myself telling my bff not to tell her anymore secrets because she told everyone that she had a crush on someone and she even told my bff's crush about it. I thought i was protecting my bff but soon my whole group of friends turned on her and now none of us really hang out with her anymore. I never meant for this to happen but it did and i really wish i could say sorry but now she's really mean and she's getting bad grades. When we were her friend, she was an honor roll student and now she has 2.7 and lower. I even heard a teacher ask her why this was happening. Then she started skipping class and my bff said she wasn't surprised. I caught myself saying that i wasn't surprised either that she's a terrible student and ex-friend. I hated myself because i also started calling people "nerds" and "fat kids". But i really like that now people like that I'm skinny and they think my big eyes are beautiful. I don't like what i have become i wish so bad that i could turn back the clock and make sure i don't become popular for the wrong reason. i want to be popular because people like me for me and not the mean comments and ugly names i call people. i want to change but its really hard. I need advice on how to fix all that i do.

My name is Natalia I am 12 i have been bullied since 2nd grade all because I have pimples and I'm not pretty. I have a best friend named Elizabeth she is so pretty that all the guys like her she never stands up for me . In second grade a girl punched me in the stumache and she said that would knock those ugly pimples away. Then in fifth grade the same thing happened ,now I'm in sixth grade and bullying is getting worse especially online,I have told my parents and the principles about this but it's still going on boys make fun of me because I'm not as pretty as my best friend and that I will never get anyone to like me and it really hurts. Every night I go to bed crying because of it and it never stops,but today I'm going to take a stand and stop bullying

My name is Michelle this is not my story, this is a story about a boy from Roanoke....a story that made the news.  I have been following this story since mid March.  A boy a Tidwell Middle School was being bullied...reports were made, but nothing was done.  From what I gather the boy was placed in therapy.  The bullying he endured was just too much for him to handle alone.  I applaud his parents for taking the steps to ensure his emotional well being.  The boys therapist told the boy to write about his feelings, to blog about it.  The boy is apparently a creative writer and writes all the time according to his father.  The boy began to write and write and write some more, he posted his stories for the world to see.  Killing the Children is what he called it.  In the stories he murders these children, he gives names of students, teachers, and a bus driver.  The stories were read and met with a great deal of concern.  What was a gruesome display of anger and outrage to those who had hurt him and failed him was not seen as a cry for help, but as a threat.  The boy was charged for a crime and pulled out of school.  He was evaluated for two weeks,  the result of his evaluation was that he was not some murderous monster, but a hurt and deeply wounded child. One who chose to vent through his writing.  The indictment against the boy was dropped and he was allowed to go back to school, only to be terrorized some more.  Not only had the students bullied him, but now their parents bully him.  Like a modern day scene from the Salem witch trials the parents go to the school with their signs like pitchforks protesting against the boy.  Chanting to keep their children safe. There is even a girl that says here and her friend were a victim of his last year....a scene so familiar from the Salem Witch trials. The parents fear this boy, they believe he will become another Columbine,  they believe he is a ticking time bomb waiting to happen with their precious bullies within reach of harms way.  They must protect their bullies, they must make sure they do not get hurt.  The parents of this boy should have rallied a protest against these bullies,  the parents should have made signs asking the school to protect his son from these monsters, from their hatred.  However that didn't happen, because it never does.  Instead the bullies have become the victim and the victim has become the monster.  The bullies planted a seed of hatred within a boy and that hatred grew with the hatred they placed there now they all run around in fear wondering why....why me....why was I named in his gruesome story?  The parents shelter their children in fear, but never taught them to have empathy for others, for those who are different.  The parents never taught their kids kindness towards others.  They didn't teach them to stand up for those who could not defend themselves and now they are teaching them how to pretend to be the victim on their own mess.

I have been following this story for the past couple of weeks.  My heart goes out to this boy, whoever he is.  Shame on them for hurting you this way.  I am sorry that people can be so mean.  I am sorry they made you feel so bad.  If I could I would hug you and tell you it will all be ok.  We are not all like them, there are some of out here who will stand up for you!!! There are some of out here who will embrace you as you are and some of us that will applaud your creative gift of story telling.  I did not know these parents were going to protest, I would have gladly called into work and protested as well, but against them with a sign that said stop the bullying!! Teach your children empathy!!  I apologize for their ignorance, they fear what they do not understand, they fear what is different.  Instead of trying to put themselves in your place to try and understand how you must feel about yourself...they lash out.  

The parents of these bullies should be ashamed of themselves.  Teach your children to respect their peers.  To be kind and to have a heart.  There are consequences to being mean and evil.  God does not like ugly. Teach your children to have empathy please.  Do not put more bullies into this world....we have enough thank you!! 

Where ever this boy is, he is in pain....because see he endured bullying, he was humiliated, tortured and the ones who were supposed to protect him failed to do so.  There is this theory that the bullied must step up against the bully and stick up for themselves.  Give him a good punch in the nose.  If this boy was a threat, he would have already done that.  He obviously is not a person who will hurt someone.  After being bullied he was charged for a crime, his story plastered on the news for all to see.  He was taken out of school and placed under evaluation, his indictment was dropped and he was allowed to go back to school only to be met with the scorn of the bully's parents.  I can not imagine what this boy is going through or what he feels inside, his father said that his son was a good student and would never hurt anyone. I believe his father because it is plain to see that his some was the one being hurt and continues to be hurt.  No one will stand up for this boy.  No one will protect him.  I want to, but I don't know how to help this 14 year old boy from Roanoke who attends Tidwell Middle School. 

My name is Michelle this is not my story, this is a story about a boy from Roanoke...a writer from tidwell..a story that made the news. I have been following this story since mid March. A boy from Tidwell Middle School was being bullied...reports were made, but nothing was done. From what I gather the boy was placed in therapy. The bullying he endured was just too much for him to handle alone. I applaud his parents for taking the steps to ensure his emotional well being. The boys therapist told the boy to write about his feelings, to blog about it. The boy is apparently a creative writer and writes all the time according to his father. The boy began to write and write and write some more, he posted his stories for the world to see. Killing the Children is what he called it. In the stories he murders these children, he gives names of students, teachers, and a bus driver. The stories were read and met with a great deal of concern. What was a gruesome display of anger and outrage to those who had hurt him and failed him was not seen as a cry for help, but as a threat. The boy was charged for a crime and pulled out of school. He was evaluated for two weeks, the result of his evaluation was that he was not some murderous monster, but a hurt and deeply wounded child. One who chose to vent through his writing. The indictment against the boy was dropped and he was allowed to go back to school, only to be terrorized some more. Not only had the students bullied him, but now their parents bully him. Like a modern day scene from the Salem witch trials the parents go to the school with their signs like pitchforks protesting against the boy. Chanting to keep their children safe. There is even a girl that says her and her friend were a victim of his last year....good job little girl for mimicking a scene out of Salem Witch trials. The parents fear this boy, they believe he will become another Columbine, they believe he is a ticking time bomb waiting to happen with their precious bullies within reach of harms way. They must protect their bullies, they must make sure they do not get hurt. The parents of this boy should have rallied a protest against these bullies, the parents should have made signs asking the school to protect his son from these monsters, from their hatred. However that didn't happen, because it never does. Instead the bullies have become the victim and the victim has become the monster. The bullies planted a seed of hatred within a boy and that hatred grew with the hatred they placed there now they all run around in fear wondering why....why me....why was I named in his gruesome story? The parents shelter their children in fear, but never taught them to have empathy for others, for those who are different. The parents never taught their kids kindness towards others. They didn't teach them to stand up for those who could not defend themselves and now they are teaching them how to pretend to be the victim on their own mess.

I have been following this story for the past couple of weeks. My heart goes out to this boy, whoever he is. Shame on them for hurting you this way. I am sorry that people can be so mean. I am sorry they made you feel so bad. If I could I would hug you and tell you it will all be ok. We are not all like them, there are some of out here who will stand up for you!!! There are some of out here who will embrace you as you are and some of us that will applaud your creative gift of story telling. I did not know these parents were going to protest, I would have gladly called into work and protested as well, but against them with a sign that said stop the bullying!! Teach your children empathy!! I apologize for their ignorance, they fear what they do not understand, they fear what is different. Instead of trying to put themselves in your place to try and understand how you must feel about yourself...they lash out.

The parents of these bullies should be ashamed of themselves. Teach your children to respect their peers. To be kind and to have a heart. There are consequences to being mean and evil. God does not like ugly. Teach your children to have empathy please. Do not put more bullies into this world....we have enough thank you!!

Where ever this boy is, he is in pain....because see he endured bullying, he was humiliated, tortured and the ones who were supposed to protect him failed to do so. There is this theory that the bullied must step up against the bully and stick up for themselves. Give him a good punch in the nose. If this boy was a threat, he would have already done that. He obviously is not a person who will hurt someone. After being bullied he was charged for a crime, his story plastered on the news for all to see. He was taken out of school and placed under evaluation, his indictment was dropped and he was allowed to go back to school only to be met with the scorn of the bully's parents. I can not imagine what this boy is going through or what he feels inside, his father said that his son was a good student and would never hurt anyone. I believe his father because it is plain to see that his son was the one being hurt and continues to be hurt. No one will stand up for this boy. No one will protect him. I want to, but I don't know how to help this 14 year old writer from Roanoke who attends Tidwell Middle School.