hi my name is Natalie Clark,year 9 at Darling Range Sports College, I live in Perth, WA and this is my story.

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everyday of my life i have been bullied by everyone at school including my friends and teachers, i get pushed around and teased a lot. they call me names like 'school slut', 'slurry', 'pussy', 'bitch', 'pathetic' and 'useless'. in most occasions i get told to go hang myself and to go jump off a cliff, i cant even talk to my mum or dad about it because they just ignore more or don't believe me, i have reported it to the school plenty of times and they ignore it or tell me to ignore them. i have tried ignoring them but it doesn't work if they are in my ear every second for almost 40 hours a week. i have thought of suicide twice since i started high school and i have never ever done cutting. at school i probably have 10 friends max that care for me and don't call me unpleasant names. when i get home i go straight to my room and lock myself in there for the rest of the day. really the only things i do is sleep, eat (sometimes), school, read then sleep again. i don't have much of a social life, when i try to it goes bad so i just decide to be quiet and alone.

i would really like a solution to my life, it would be the best thing that i could ever imagine. ive always wondered what it is like to live a normal, popular, beautiful teenage life.

Life isn't always easy, and believe me neither is being alive... Being in elemntary school, i had trouble living normally. I had been abused at 11, and went to class every day. I held my head up for minimum time, and as soon as i got the chance. I went to wonderland.

Middle School: Open Target

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Being called names, as much as we don't like to admit, does hurt. Many names are out there... Slut, whore, fake, and more for girls. Gay, man-whore,  jerk, prick, for boys... See, the terms i use i heard more than felt. Emo, goth, punk, lonely, cutter, freak, weird, retard... Those are my most memorable names. I hated them. This was all middle school until i was told by my mother, i was leaving to go away. I left Noe Middle School in 8th grade, and left to get some help.

 

High School Hell

My first year of High School, i left 20 friends and 3 best friends. Went to a school i knew for its careless attitude in students, but i couldn't see at first. It eventually grew obvious... " This boy.. He is touching me when i told him to never touch me. He keeps grabbing me..." i thought constantly, and always fled from him. Rumors filled my ears at lunch, tears licked my cheeks on the bus... People threw trash and told me to screw off. I felt like trash... Like wasted space of the human population... 

 

I knew my copping skills, i talked to my therapist, and i'm still good. I'm still a freshman, my year is better. 

If you ever feel horrid, left out, or even worse to the point of vanishing like water vapor... Please ask a school authority for help, or ask your parents. ( School is Parents or home is problem/ Parents if others are problems/ or 911 if its unbearable) 

 

My daughter started her senior year this school year with the highest hopes of an amazing senior year, those hopes were quickly diminished. K began dating a boy in July and what she didn't bargain on was the fact that this boys ex-girlfriend was an extremely jealous evil individual. K was working her job at a local mall when the ex and two of the ex's friends came in and seen her.....they began to point, take pictures and ridicule her, when K left her job that night the word "slut" was written on her truck in red lipstick.  School started and these girls plus several of her other friends would call her "whore, bitch, slut" point and laugh whenever she walked by them, this was all brought to the schools attention as they have a very strict zero tolerance policy when it comes to bullying but nothing was done and in fact it was made to seem as though K had brought this on herself.  There was a text message sent between the ex and K's boyfriend where the ex admitted to writing on her truck because the twins she was with didn't like K and neither did she so she wasn't going to say no. This was brought to the schools attention but because it happened outside of school there wasn't anything they could do.  These three girls began to talk about K and the incident on twitter, K responded to the twitter post with "grow up". K was called into the office at school for participating in a "twitter" fight...when I pointed out to the administrator that she simply responded with "grow up" I was told that was perceived as egging it on and that if they disciplined the other students K would be disciplined as well for her participation. In the next few weeks the bullying continued in halls at school in the classroom but it was all verbal and couldn't be proven because K's friends would hear and see it and when administrators asked the other group of kids they all said "no we would never do that" it very quickly became a game of he said she said. The end of October things escalated and went from name calling, pointing and laughing to our home being paint balled several times in broad daylight and her truck being vandalized in the school parking lot during school hours. Again the school did nothing, they were made aware of every incident that happened....a white substance mixed with carmex smeared all over her vehicle, pizza smeared the entire length of her vehicle, trash dumped into the bed, and the name calling continues. The ex and her friend who is a male would block the hall during passing so my daughter would have to stop and go around while they would laugh and point calling her a bitch and a whore. The schools solution was to move K's parking spot to another area, I was so angry that even though my daughter had done nothing they wanted to move her, I said absolutely not! The ex had found a way to manipulate everyone including the school, there was a boy that got work detail for the pizza incident and he happened to have a class with my daughter...he walked into class after being disciplined laughing and saying what a joke the school was (we would later learn that this boy did not vandalize my daughters truck it was the ex that convinced him to do it because she didn't want to get into trouble). There were Instagram posts created about my daughter and these kids saying if she didn't like what was being done to her she could "nut up and scrap" yet nothing was happening to these kids. K's truck got egged the end of October and I sent yet another email to the school begging them to enforce their zero tolerance policy concerning bullying along with my fears that the situation was escalating and I was now afraid for my daughters safety. Twitter posts about her going on and still nothing from the school, these kids seemed untouchable. K was an emotional wreck and couldn't understand what she had done to these people to make them hate her...having to continually pick the pieces of your child up off of the floor because some other humans could see no value in her is devastating to a parent...it is emotionally exhausting as well. Every night as I lay in bed I wondered how much time do I have left to save her? When will this become too much of a burden for her to bare? All at the expense of a mean girl and her gang of friends and a school that can't be bothered.  November 2nd in the middle of the night I awoke to the sound of what I thought was 2 gunshots in my home, I was panicked as I raced downstairs to make sure my children were safe and in one piece.  What we found next was shocking, some evil individuals had created homemade bombs and thrown them at our home. We called our local police department, they came out filed a report and could not believe our situation we were in or the lack of discipline from the school. I again fired off another email to the school letting them know that if they hadn't already talked to these parents about what their children were participating in at school they needed to because they were all about to be investigated. The investigation went on and nothing was able to be proved as the liquid in the bombs was acid based and it ate away the bottles that the liquid was in. The name calling continued along with dirty looks and now the ex was tailgating my daughter, parking right up next to her in the student parking area as well as following her around.  The week before Thanksgiving I demanded a meeting with the ex's parents, the school told me that's not normally how we do things...I pointed out that their way wasn't working as this had been going on for 4 months. Friday November 22, 2013 K, my husband, myself the ex and her mom sat down with one of the school administrators quickly we realized that this mother knew nothing of what had been going on, after a little prodding the ex admitted to the name calling and blocking K in the halls..she claimed she knew about the other stuff but it wasn't her. The school administrator said that if the 2 girls couldn't work through their differences she would move both of their lockers because they were in close proximity to each other, again potentially punish my daughter because they have not been able to control the situation or apply discipline to these bullies. The ex's mother was visibly upset that her daughter had treated another person this way....but it didn't stop it continued. During Christmas break the ex's male friend and another girl found my daughter where she worked and sat in the customer area and made fun of her and ridiculed her while she helped customers...these kids were told by management that they were not allowed back in the store. K stopped telling us what was going on because it didn't matter nothing happened to these kids, the school was no help, obviously my husband and I were no help....she was alone fighting this battle against people that didn't care about her at all.  Second semester started and much to our shock K and the ex were in Government class together!!! Talk about pouring salt into the wound...it was explained to me that K could switch classes if she felt it was an issue but the ex had no other option....here we are again moving the victim. In mid January the administrators stopped K in the hall to ask how things were going, when K hesitated they called me with her in the office because at this point I had instructed the school they were not to speak to my daughter without my husband or I present in some capacity. I told them of course she hesitated! She is still being called names and pointed at and ridiculed by the same group of kids. My daughter takes community involvement which is located in the elementary school next to the high school the ex does not have classes there yet every day will drive over to the elementary school tailgate her all the way or cut her off to get in front of her and flip her off.  I was informed by the administrators that the ex was no longer allowed in the student parking at the high school because she was spinning snow at K and her friends and another student informed the school administrators of this yet the ex continued to park where she wanted in the student parking with no repercussions for not following what she was instructed to do. In February K had enough and decided "I'm not hiding from these kids anymore" when the ex and her bullies flipped K off she flipped them off back, when the ex and her bullies called K names she stood her ground and asked "what the problem was".  I was called into school after the ex went in and told on K for flipping her off, as K explained to the administrators "I didn't do it first it was only after she did it to me".  Spring break started and K went on about her life and then she got a phone call from a friend saying the ex and her group were looking for K because they were going to kick her ass. Then a very strange thing happened the ex's guy friend Facebook messaged K apologizing for treating her so bad for the last several months, K also started receiving text messages from an untraceable number saying they were going to beat the crap out of her.  The first day back to school after spring break K took the printed out apology from the ex's guy friend in to show the administrators along with copies of the threats because something definitely didn't feel right, the administrators actually said to K "why would he apologize to you? For months he has been saying he isn't involved and nothing has been happening to you?" I was extremely proud of K she responded with "I don't know why any of them are doing any of what they are doing".  The next day I got a phone call from the school and I could here K in the background crying hysterically, they informed me that the ex had went and filed a stalking order on K...it was denied but the judge set a hearing because she also asked for a long term order and wanted to hear all of the evidence.  Another huge blow to my daughter, luckily I have pictures of everything, screen shots of a lot of the things said, the police report from the bombing, and statements from other students that witnessed K being bullied by this girl.  Just last night she received another anonymous text message saying "We stopped for awhile but you started it back up, we're never going to stop and nobody can help you" I just hope it's enough to clear my daughters name and get her some justice.  The hearing is two weeks away, I know they say hindsight is great but honestly there are a lot of things I would do differently, I would have been more aggressive with the school sooner, I would have taken out a protective order on the bullies...I wish I had done a better job of protecting my daughter.

I am the kind of person you will see always having a smile on my face. I am the person you will see talking to everyone. I am the person you will see stand up to bullies. I walk around being friends with everyone. I only have one true bestfriend though. I get bullied a lot, people talking behind by back, calling every name in the book. I have made really bad choices in my life, from being stupid. But if I never would of done what I did, I would of never learned. People use it again me calling be a slut, a whore, a bitch, fat, ugly, and anything else. To me, thoughs are just words they are labeling me with. It does not bother me that people call me thoughs names. They don't know me, they don't know what I go through everyday of my life, and they don't know why I do the things I do. 

When I see bullying happening, even to people who bully me, I will say something. I will not be rude or hurtful to either one of them, I will just say stop. They know if I hear it, I will say something. I am not afaird. I mean seriously, who has enough time in their short life to go around talking a whole bunch of crap about someone else. Your life is to short to bully someone or even get bullied. If you get bullied it means that they are proably just jealous of you because they have nothing better to do than talk about you. Don't listen to them because all they are doing is trying to bring you down because they know in their heart that you are better than them. Everyone in their life has problem bullied someone or has gotten bullied. We all make mistakes. I know I have done it and then realized that it was a bad mistake. I am the type of person that can not go to sleep at night if I say something mean to someone. I am to scared that I am going to wake up the next day and they are going to be gone and I will not have my time to say goodbye and I am sorry. Like I make new friends all the time and I will just love them in a day because I am just a loving person. A lot of girls and some guys come to me when they are down or need help with something because I help anyone with anything. I don't want to be the person they go to and them say that i am not going to help them because I don't want to hear the next day they are gone because no one would help them. I want everyone to know they are not alone because I been at my lowest point many many times and just wanting to leave here because I couldn't handle what people said behind my back. But now I can. 

You are your own person. You are you. You are perfect in ever way shape and form. You might have problems with things, but that are just flaws that make you the person you are. There is nothing wrong with you. People will say there is, but really there is nothing. You are an amzing person and you need to stand up and believe in your self. Be bold. Don't let the world change your smile, make your smile change the world! :) 

Although I do not specifically remember being bullied I have had a lot of friends bullied, along with my younger sister.  I would like to share with you her story.  She was a GREAT lacrosse player and had been playing all four years of high school and was doing very well, even had a college looking at her.  An then at some point during her senior year a few of the girls had thought she had told the coach something and began calling her names, talking badly about her to her face and behind her back and just overall treating her very badly.  The coach did nothing about it and at some points throughout each season would bench her a lot, specifically her senior year.  These girls were so mean to her she gave up something she loved to do and quit the team.

 

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If you are being bullied indeed YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! My nightmarish experience in school...from about 4th grade through high school is much like that of the horror movie character Carrie White from the 1970's horror movie 'Carrie'. Some of you may be familiar with it. Some may not. It has a rather gruesome ending and I do not condone any kind of violent retaliation against bullies as far as the ending of this movie is concerned. At any rate, on we go. Most of my mistreatment was because of my out of control weight and my man-breasts as i call them which were caused by a psychiatric medicine i was on as a youngster. Also I had some hyperactivity challenges which most of my peers quickly noticed and in no time at all used it as fuel for their burns of cruelty I was subjected to on a daily basis. I have to laugh because its bad enough many eople say things like "ohhh everyone gets picked on in school". Im sorry but for some people its not that simple. There is a difference between being bullied and merely "picked on" but what i chuckle about is every day when i would get dropped off at school the principal would often be greeting students by the front doors and would always say to me in an un caring manner "Fire up, Nick." I would just nod my head and smile the realest smile I could muster up, the whole time thinking "yeah buddy you try being in my shoes feeling what I feel every day in this hell hole and we'll see how quickly you 'fire up' about being here." Well I still have the enlarged male breasts to this day. I have called out many of my worst tormentors on their behavior and asked why they felt like they needed to be so hateful towards me when they never really knew anything about me. I usually got a hasty appology and some kind of excuse for their words or actions but then not totally surprisingly I never heard from them again. Point being is whether you are a youth or an adult it is NEVER ok to be a bully nor is there ever any excuse to put up with being treated poorly. Just be YOU. Pure and simple. Take me for instance. I love tattoos. And one I am going to get on my arm is the blue bullying awareness ribbon with the words "Bullying Survivor" in it the same way other support ribbons have the words on them. This is going to be a HUGE way I feel to spread awareness to the issue of bullying. The sad fact is is that the emotional and psychological effects of bullying can be so severe that those who suffer the effects do not survive. Either feeling like nobody really cares or understands what they are feeling and going through or the mistreatment makes the person feel so worthless that they end up taking their own life. No matter who you are or where you are if you witness any kind of bullying going on ACT. Stand up for the person. Tell the bully that their hurtful ways are unacceptable and ask them how they would like it if they were the one getting bullied. If you dont feel comfortable getting directly involved like that, dont just shrug it off and walk away. Get sombody who CAN step in. Because just one caring person to stick up for them may seem insignificant to some. But to them it would mean more than all the riches in fort knox. Seriously. I know it would have meant that much and more to me. However nobody did so for me. I had to bottle it in. I feel very blessed despite this because very seldom does bottling anything in have a good result. Back then and to this day I found comfort in music. All kinds of music. I also discovered I had the talent of rapping. I can also write some awesome lyrics. Just for fun though. Not seeking a record deal or anything. Music for me is an amazing outlet for me. Whether listening to it or rapping or merely writing my feelings and thoughts into lyrics. Dont know what I would do without music honestly. Some more of the best advice I can give is not to give those who treat you badly the reaction they are looking for. I know this is often much easier said than done. You may not master this overnight but it is so very possible. Never stop believing in YOU! Because one thing I learned during my late 20's is that it is better to have 0 fake "friends" or associate with ppl who hurt you. Im sure there will be bullies or parents of bullies who will read posts like these and to you all I have one simple message: GROW UP AND TAKE A LOOK AT YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR!! HOW WOULD YOU LIKE BEING BULLIED? OR YOUR KIDS BEING BULLIED? Stay strong my friends!!

After school on the I was said that I smell like fish, and that the girl who was bullying me said that she was gonna punch me in my face if I didn't get out my seat. I said for once can't u pick on somebody or own size. My advice is to speak up for yourself, don't cry about do something about it. Make a matter ,ask a teacher to have a no bullying club.

I constantly see people get bullied. Sometimes even I get picked on...I promise though that from now on, I will be the difference, standing up for others, and showing them that they do have a friend. Me.

"Why didn't you tell me?! We could have stopped this so long again, you stupid girl!" My teacher, making me feel as though the fact I was still getting bullied was my fault, trying to justify it.         At the begging of school, primary school, I guess I don't remember but I assume it is was okay. Nothing too much. Then I remember getting a bit older, maybe about 8. That's my earlier memory of trying to cut myself. I remember being pushed down in the dirt because I was different.  From then until last year, ten years later, the bullying continued. Through High School, girls would spread rumours and I ended up with no friends. I remember a girl grabbing my hair and throwing me down near the door and slamming the door on my head. I remember the girls asking me questions about stuff I didn't know about because they thought it was funny when I was wrong or when I got nervous. When we played P.E, they said that I was a pig that smelt and that I was disgusting. My bullies are the reasons I have scars all over my body, I put them there. They are the reason I have attempted to take my life over 5 times. My pain has not made me stronger yet, I still have panic attacks, I can't talk to new people, I self harm, I have an eating disorder and I am severely depressed. Though, I am standing here and I am trying to make a difference for the people who no longer can. I am doing this for my seven year old brother who refused to eat his tea because the other kids called him fat, making him think there was something wrong with that. I am doing it for the people who need me, until I can do it for myself as well.