Posted by · April 15, 2013 3:22 PM
I suffer from schizophrenia I remember one time I wanted to hurt somebody I went to north Medford high school it was at lunch and I saw my friend get hit with ranch right in the side of his face. soon after somebody hit me with a ranch container.I stood up and was about to humiliate the guy but I think it got to me. me and my friend left the scene and while everybody was laughing I was humiliated and very angry I remember kicking a locked bathroom stall open and so that is my story I am a very gentile guy but unfortunately people aren't as cool as they think. I am actually a very peaceful guy with a big heart thank you for reading this...
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 1:33 PM
I was bullied all through school until the 8th grade and finally I snapped and broke the bullies nose with the pad lock of my locker. After that I would get into fights all the time because I never wanted to be a victim again .that caused a lot problems for me because I was always getting into trouble for fighting . I went through 2 years of counciling to stop fighting and was a peaceful person before I got bullied
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 11:19 AM
This movemeny breaks my heart because it hit close to home. It makes me think how badly I was being bullied when I was younger. It's so sad to think that kids at a young age can even think about ending their life just because of the mean words people can say. I know because I wanted to end my life at the young age of 9..10 maybe. How can that happen so early in a childs life? i think back now that i have a daughter. i couldnt even imagine if my daughter even felt an ounce of how i did back then what i would do. Not because of people in school but places where I was supposed to feel safe and loved. At home and at the church I grew up in. With parents and "friends" that were supposed to have a foundation on godly love. I do not regret it at all because it had made me the feisty little popper i am nowadays, standing up for what I believe is right. I know things are not that way now; my family is as close as we've ever been, and I've learned to forgive people's actions in my past, but I do believe its why I lost a lot of faith growing up. That was not love to me. Love is not supposed to leave a 10 year old crying herself to sleep every night thinking about the packed bag underneath her bed and the stolen knife in my bedside table. The only thing that kept me holding on was my friends at school and if I just closed my eyes, it'd be morning already, and I'd be with them soon.
Guess that's why I cherish my friendships, and I can never understand how friendships can go awry when a person feels its okay to take advantage of someone that's there for you unconditionally. But ultimately, it changed me to the person I am today. Just a young girl, trying to fit in and be accepted, I got brought down by "friends" with ridicules and names calling; bullying. "Why are you even here Abigail?" "Nobody wants you here." "Why don't you just go away." "Why do you even exist." "Why are you even alive?" Why am I alive? ... Of course first thing in a young girls mind is: well, guess I'm better off dead. And then after crying alone on a roof that ive run away to for hours. I'd go home to constant nagging and yelling and blaming and fighting. Getting picked on by my own family, getting chores put on me that was not just a mental but physical strain. I look back now as a mother and think what I would've done different but at the same time slightly sympathetic to the discipline. Even though I never felt the love, deep down I know the care was there. That's why I held on. But I can't tell you the countless times I still thought back to that bag underneath me and the weapon beside me. My younger sister is 8 years younger. I, at least, had my older sister there for moral support growing up. There was a point where i finally was over being quiet. Maybe I hurt so bad and was disciplined because I was the black sheep. Because I had an opinion. Because I spoke my mind. But I didn't want my little sister to go through that alone. That's why I've stayed by her side, guiding her, filling her with my knowledge, and relating with her as much as I could. If it wasn't my friends keeping me alive, it was my sisters. They've kept me sane and strong all these years. If not for me, for them.
As anything in life the bullying soon passed and I was accepted as one of them. It's like some sort of sick initiation to get in their group. And we, as a whole, found someone else to bully. My heart is heavy that I caved to something that just merely made me want to end my life not so long ago. It was short lived.. and I started to become wiser. My eyes were opened. That is when I started to not care what people thought of me. Going to a school that I loved so much because I was a charismatic nerd with an oddball personality. Who knew those traits would thrive in a mere 30 person class per grade private school. But I felt like the leader of the herd there. And I was friends with everyone. The turmoil I had gone through at such a young age strengthened me and matured my mind where I feel as I though the same then as I do now. I befriended all. My friends in school too, luckily enough, had big caring hearts just as mine. The "nerds" in our class, we adopted them in and made them "cool". (Haha, that sounds so vain, but in simplicity, thats what it came down to.) I didn't care who a person was, if I liked them, they were my friend and I'd stick up for them. It was weird because it set this sense of balance in my grade which makes us still good friends till this day 15 years later. We have the joy of our past which back then a child's "world" is so minuscule when compared to our crazy adult life. In a child's eyes, it's exactly it; their world.
And this carried into highschool as I never fall into a solid clique. I was involved in everything. And kept all friendships at the same plateau. It might've built walls up and kept me guarded but I think it's ok to guard yourself, guard your heart. You are irreplaceable. No one else is like you. And you are worthy of anything you dream of and anything you think you deserve. In my mind everyone was equal and no one is in any position to judge another. I didn't need church or elders to tell me that. I felt it in my heart. It was human. It was real.
I think back now and I believe it's carried on throughout life. We as adults still bully out peers. Countless relationships I encounter, I see bullying. I was in a toxic relationship for 4 years with a guy that just bullied the (evalivinschnite) outa me. And his friends who are good people deep down and i thought we built honest friendships with the other, were sheep, and would not stand up for what it right. The ones who weren't, didn't care, and we made it through that obstacle and are close friends till this day. I see it in marriages. I see it in people's jobs, careers. I bartend and I see it especially coming out with liquid courage and druken blurr. I see it in the local scene. It's sad. It's sad that life is just like grade school but we as adults have just built up a stronger tolerance for people's nasty attitudes. It also separates us for the worse and the better. It makes us wiser and that only grows as each year passes and as we get put through challenge after challenge, trial after trial in life. With what I've gone through in life I've learned the balance of the universe will not put you through something you cannot handle. It knows you can ultimately push through and rise above and conquer it all. Otherwise, life will find a way to eliminate it.
I regret nothing, even though its brought me to the lowest low. Without it, I cannot feel the high and,oh, how have I been up there. it is beautiful. As DaVinci once said," Once you have flown you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward; for there you have been, and there you long to be." And our eyes will not be set so high if it were for the people who ground us. All of the people. Bad and good. I appreciate and cherish all the people that have crossed paths in my life. They've built me to the person I am today and I think I have a good steady head on my shoulders. I am wise, and my sight has never been clearer. Still doesn't exclude that bullying is real. We need to be strong for the weak. You don't know what little action you do can save a life. In all aspects.
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 11:19 AM
My sisters and I were bullied because we lived in a run down trailer. Our home was called the town dump. Although I did have a group of very close friends, school was difficult because of the fear of what might happen. I began to defend myself because I didn't feel the teachers protected us. One time, I was beat up, but the teacher scolded me because I had left the wall of the school building knowing I could potentially be attacked. I became a teacher and my past has helped me to build strong relationships with my students. I want them to be able to trust me that I will do everything in my power to protect them and provide them a safe place to learn and thrive.
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 9:10 AM
In second grade, I was the new girl in school. Moving to a small town, I thought I would be able to make friends easily. Wrong. A week into being in a new school, I was bullied. I was called weird, fat, stupid, ugly, etc. I was even getting beat up. This went on through middle school as well. I didn't make friends until the 8th grade. I was happier that year, I had a good group of friends, and I wasn't getting called names as much (except fat). One day, when I was in drafting class, that great group of friends of mine wrote a note telling me how much they hated me and they didn't want to be my friend anymore. I ran out of class and into the girls bathroom and sobbed for hours. I didn't want to leave. Since I had been a cutter for years, I cut just to make the pain go away. High school wasn't much better. I only had a few friends, but, I was bullied by my peers and the upperclassmen. I was told I get uglier every year, and that I was so fat, no one would want me. No one did want me. I didn't date at all in high school. Junior year, the bullying was getting worse. I decided to overdose while in school. The school officials called the ambulance and I was rushed to the hospital. Soon after, I was put in the psychiatric hospital. When I was released, I had to go to outpatient therapy for 6 months. People at school found out and made fun of me for going to a psychiatric hospital. I had become so numb by the torment, I had no more tears left to cry. I just shut down. I was diagnosed with severe depression. Senior year, I decided that I would just keep a low profile. I would just stay out of everyone's way and not talk to anyone. The first day of school, people were nice to me. I was shocked. This went on for a few months. It looked like things were looking up. In December of 2001, 2 weeks before my 18th birthday, the popular crowd spread rumors that I was a part of the trench coat mafia and I was going to blow up the school. The principal and school psychologist pulled me out of class and escorted me down to the office. I had no idea what was going on. When they sat me down and told me what was going on, I was shocked. I told them I never made such a threat, and would never make those kind of threats. I told them, I'd rather kill myself before hurting anyone else because everyone would be better off without me. The principal told me that the cops are here to arrest me. I became very scared. No one believed me. I took a letter opener from the principals desk and threatened to slice my throat open. They called the ambulance and I was brought to the hospital. A week later, I was home watching tv, and the principal called. He told my dad that I was suspended from school, and that I was completely insane and that I needed to be put somewhere. My dad told me what he said, and I became sick to my stomach. In a few days, I was going to be 18 years old, and to have the principal say that and to have no one believe me, just made me die inside. I told my dad that I wanted to sue the school system. My 18th birthday, out of the 25-30 people I invited, one showed up.
After Christmas break, we sat down with school officials, and I told them that I am contacting a lawyer and I was planning on suing the school system. They became nervous, and they decided to send me to a psychiatric school so I could finish out my senior year and graduate high school. They paid for my schooling. During the middle of the summer, I received word that the principal and vice principal were fired due to how they handled the situation. My family got an apology from the new principal. This did not change the opinion of those in my small town. I couldn't go anywhere without getting reactions. I was not only bullied out of school, I was bullied out of town.
I'm 30 years old, and the horror I suffered during my childhood still haunts me. When you are bullied in this kind of magnitude, it sticks with you forever. Kids can be very very cruel, and they have no idea how what they say and do can hurt and kill their peers. I almost did succeed in a few of my suicide attempts. One of the times that I was in the ER for overdosing, I was told that I almost died. I remember telling the doctor, "next time I'll try harder." Now that I'm an adult, I want to help children and teens who have been bullied. Children and teens, you are NOT alone. I have been there, and understand the pain, the hopelessness, and the desperation. All is not hopeless though. You don't have to take what your bullies hand out to you. You have the strength inside you to change things. Believe in yourself because you are part of the group that can change the world. You have a place in this world, and a place in my heart. Bullying needs to be stopped. Schools need to adopt a zero tolerance attitude towards bullying.
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 7:35 AM
I had a lot of friends in elementary school, but when the girls started to grow boobs, everything changed for me. I entered middle school still looking a lot like a pudgy little fifth grader but as puberty progressed, so did my waist line. In sixth grade, the mockery was tolerable and limited to the dodgeball court and recess but in seventh grade it became torturous. The second day of seventh grade, I walked across the cafeteria to throw my lunch away and thats when I heard it. Soft mooing. I didn't really think anything of it at first but thats when it became harder to ignore. I looked over and saw a table of boys giggling and looking at me. As I turned to walk away I heard it again, this time more audible. They did that every time I walked by them for over a year until finally I stood up for myself. That's all it takes sometimes, just standing up for yourself once. To think telling one of those boys they had a small penis would end the bullying.
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 3:59 AM
This documentary moved and touched my heart with anger, pain, and joy. For the reason, I was bullied from elementary school to high school. It was a horrific time frame in my life. I would be carrying my food tray. Suddenly, one of the other boys would just slap the tray off my hands. All I saw was other boys and girls laughing at me. Some kids would say to me, “hey nigger lips,” and call me a, “pussy” or “little bitch.” These words angered me more than anything. Yes, I cried many times. Especially, I would cry when taking a shower. I did not want my mom to know or to see me crying. It came to a point that I was not able to tell apart if it was water or my tears running down my face. It was overwhelming. I felt like there was no one that wanted to hear me out. I felt that people were too busy to listen to my thoughts. I did not feel a bond with any of the students around me. Yes, I was different, but it was not in a bad way. I started to see myself as being artistic and talented. I kept saying this to myself to get me through part of my years being bullied. Since no one was hearing me out, I had to find a way to help myself get through school. One day, all the anger and pain that bullies had applied in my life just snapped my mind. I cannot forget this day. I was sitting in class and some kid sitting next to me, “Let me see your homework, so I can copy it.” I refused to give him my homework. He slapped me once. I told him to stop. He started laughing. The teacher just looked over and said, “What is going on?” He knew what was going on, but he just decided to ignore. The boy slapped me again. I said to him, “I am not going to give you my homework. It took time for me to do this, do your own homework. If you slap me one more time, just watch what will happen to you.” He started to laugh. He did not believe me because I was the quiet kid in the class. He slapped me three times. Something in me just awoke. I stood up, made a fist, and punched him in the face. I heard a crack. I broke his nose. The class was silent. They were appalled to see me, the quiet kid, punch another kid in the nose. My teacher took me outside. I told him, “I did not mean to hit him, but he kept slapping me. I just couldn’t take it anymore.” I started to cry because I felt bad what I did. Yet, I felt proud of myself for standing up to this kid. My teacher just hugged me and said to me, “It’s going to be ok.” I did not want to hear, “It is going to be ok.” I wanted some action. I wanted someone to stand up for me, but nothing happened. The kid was suspended for one day. He never bullied me, but I saw him bully others. I did not have the confidence in me to defend the other kids. Now, I am confident. Sometimes, I wish I could be a friend with the individuals in the documentary. I want to speak to them and hear them out. They can hear me out. I want to give them a hug and say to them, “I know how you are feeling. You feel ashamed, pissed off, embarrassed, you question life and yourself, and sometimes think about taking your life. I went through the same thing that you are experiencing. It is an arduous process to wash away and break away from bullies. You need and you will be stronger. What matters in life is who you will become? Bullies will be bullies, most of them will not mature, but you are different. Yes, you are having a hard time with bullies now. You need to be positive and mentally and physically strong. You cannot let anyone put you down, never. I am your friend, your amigo, and I will be there when you need me. I am your friend, friends help one another enjoy life together, right?” In the end, I became confident and proud of myself as a person. Yes, my life was hell with bullies over years. I survived on my own. I want kids to know they are not alone and that life has more precious sides to share for people to see. Remember, you are not weird, you are a young artist in heart.
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 1:36 AM
I'm 47:27 into the documentary titled Bully. My mind is racing with emotion and ideas. "Nobody deserves the pain which these victimized kids are experiencing." The pain inside me is profound. The pain in these kids eyes is so visible to anyone who can handle seeing it. "How can bullying in America's school be stopped?" "What can I do to contribute to the solution?" What vision can I create in my own life in order to guide my actions in helping to preventing and stop bullying in schools?
I didn't go to a public school like the kids in this documentary. I went to a small private school; a religious private school. I also didn't grow up in a financially struggling community or in a rural town like many of these kids. However I have grown to understand that human nature and human emotions are one and the same regardless of race, religion, gender, social status, economic status or geographic location. If this is the case then I have a lot more in common with the bullies and the kids being bullied than my day-to-day actions or relationship or even location show.
Growing up I was always the shortest boy in my class. However I never got picked on for it. From time to time I was called a munchkin but these were from actual close friends of mine. This is not the type of bullying I wish to refer to. The type of bullying that I wish to discuss is the bullying that shoots out from the heart of a child in pain (the bully) right into the heart of another child in pain (the victim) which malicious intent; the bullying that causes the victim to reach the depths of despair; the bullying that pushes the victim to thoughts of suicide or suicide itself.
I was a bully in elementary school. The pain which I caused certain kids impacted them greatly, and I believe, will impact them forever. I have asked and received their forgiveness but I can never take back the actions or the pain which I caused them. Maybe I was a bully because I needed to make up for my size. But one thing is for sure: the things I would say and the things I would do came from a place of pain inside of myself. I felt "less than" and needed to knock someone down in order to make myself feel a bit bigger. I guess I was naturally "cooler" than a lot of the victims which helped prevent me from being the victim myself. However, life takes its course and what goes around comes around. All bullies will be brought to justice (in their lifetime or afterwards). And I can say that from personal experience.
I am not a doctor, therapist or clergy. I am not a father or teacher. I am someone who has been on both sides of the aisle, mainly the bully side. And what better person to understand the bully than an ex-bully himself. What compelled me to write this is not only to try and make up for lost time in the compassion category but also because the approaches which I saw in the documentary "Bully" and the lack of solutions on the school administrations end made me feel that there is a huge void in solving the bullying crisis. Please keep in mind that none of these suggestions should take the place of medicine or psychiatric help.
The following are but a few suggestions which came to mind when watching this documentary which I feel can help school teachers, principals, counselors and superintendents efficiently fight the disease of bullying in their schools. Please note that when I use the term "he" I am referring to "she" as well.
1. When a bully is with a pack of friends he will always try to prove himself. Take the bully aside, sit him down and have a heart-to-heart conversation with him. Ask him why he feels the necessity to pick on others. The bully is unable to process his own emotions as is the victim. Help the bully process these emotions which fuel his anger. He feels hurt. He feels peer pressure. He feels unloved perhaps.
2. Do the same with the victim. Allow the victim share his emotions in a safe and controlled environment such as with family and with a therapist. No answers or suggestions should be offered, just listening to the pain turn into words. It's important for the victim to learn to identify this pain and label them with emotional terms as well as have loving, understanding, non-judgmental and compassionate ear to hear them.
3. Bring step 1 and 2 together. A school counselor or principal should sit both the bully and the victim down together and allow them to explore their emotions in front of one another without any peer pressure or judgment. The moderator should not point fingers, threaten or even expect a resolution or apology. It should simply be done for both the bully and the victim to see the common humanity and emotion in the child sitting across from them. Deep deep down, nobody wants to hurt another person. However when the hurt is being fueled by an inadequate feeling about oneself or an inadequate way of expressing self-hatred it turns toward others in a toxic manner and becomes destructive and irreversible.
4. Create a game or environment where the bully or bullies need to rely on a single victim to achieve a goal. For instance a school or class-wide relay race. Most kids like competition and like winning. Set the teams up where the victim's team will win. Make it as competitive as possible but lop-side the athleticism. You don't want the victim's team to lose especially if one or more of his teammates is a bully. The bully will need to rely on the victim to win. Have the bully be the team captain and have the bully run last to complete the win. This strategy will vary depending on how many bullies and victims there are in the class. Also find common ground and hobbies between the victim and bully. Different variations of having the bully rely on the victim to win are just as good.
5. Identify one good thing that the victim does, can do or is passionate about and hyper-focus on that and find him peers or after school groups based around that. Make this his life force. If he has a passion for reading or bugs then find other kids who have passion for reading or bugs and create some type of group. Help him develop a lifelong dream and vision which his passions can help him achieve. This will give the child deep relationships with others as well as with himself. Doing one thing well can build immense self-confidence. Everyone can do one thing well and this will create a much greater value for life.
6. Find or create a support group for both victims and their parents. Victims should have a group with other children and a moderator where they can express their feelings and build camaraderie Parents should have a separate group. And a third group should be created where parents sit in on the victims group in order to show these kids that they have adults that care as well.
7. Have "recovered" bullies or groups of "recovered" bullies speak to the school. That will help create an environment where bullying is not cool causing bullies to become alienated. These groups should show public displays of acceptance towards the victims as well.
I hope this article helps identify some of the underlying factors in being a bully and a victim and what can help prevent and stop this from occurring in schools. These are just a few strategies, however they are strategies which are less conventional. These come not from teachers or politicians but from someone who has been on and watched both sides.
Feel free to share your comments, ideas or disagreements below!
Thank you,
David Margolies
4/15/2013
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 1:35 AM
I'm 47:27 into the documentary titled Bully. My mind is racing with emotion and ideas. "Nobody deserves the pain which these victimized kids are experiencing." The pain inside me is profound. The pain in these kids eyes is so visible to anyone who can handle seeing it. "How can bullying in America's school be stopped?" "What can I do to contribute to the solution?" What vision can I create in my own life in order to guide my actions in helping to preventing and stop bullying in schools?
I didn't go to a public school like the kids in this documentary. I went to a small private school; a religious private school. I also didn't grow up in a financially struggling community or in a rural town like many of these kids. However I have grown to understand that human nature and human emotions are one and the same regardless of race, religion, gender, social status, economic status or geographic location. If this is the case then I have a lot more in common with the bullies and the kids being bullied than my day-to-day actions or relationship or even location show.
Growing up I was always the shortest boy in my class. However I never got picked on for it. From time to time I was called a munchkin but these were from actual close friends of mine. This is not the type of bullying I wish to refer to. The type of bullying that I wish to discuss is the bullying that shoots out from the heart of a child in pain (the bully) right into the heart of another child in pain (the victim) which malicious intent; the bullying that causes the victim to reach the depths of despair; the bullying that pushes the victim to thoughts of suicide or suicide itself.
I was a bully in elementary school. The pain which I caused certain kids impacted them greatly, and I believe, will impact them forever. I have asked and received their forgiveness but I can never take back the actions or the pain which I caused them. Maybe I was a bully because I needed to make up for my size. But one thing is for sure: the things I would say and the things I would do came from a place of pain inside of myself. I felt "less than" and needed to knock someone down in order to make myself feel a bit bigger. I guess I was naturally "cooler" than a lot of the victims which helped prevent me from being the victim myself. However, life takes its course and what goes around comes around. All bullies will be brought to justice (in their lifetime or afterwards). And I can say that from personal experience.
I am not a doctor, therapist or clergy. I am not a father or teacher. I am someone who has been on both sides of the aisle, mainly the bully side. And what better person to understand the bully than an ex-bully himself. What compelled me to write this is not only to try and make up for lost time in the compassion category but also because the approaches which I saw in the documentary "Bully" and the lack of solutions on the school administrations end made me feel that there is a huge void in solving the bullying crisis. Please keep in mind that none of these suggestions should take the place of medicine or psychiatric help.
The following are but a few suggestions which came to mind when watching this documentary which I feel can help school teachers, principals, counselors and superintendents efficiently fight the disease of bullying in their schools. Please note that when I use the term "he" I am referring to "she" as well.
1. When a bully is with a pack of friends he will always try to prove himself. Take the bully aside, sit him down and have a heart-to-heart conversation with him. Ask him why he feels the necessity to pick on others. The bully is unable to process his own emotions as is the victim. Help the bully process these emotions which fuel his anger. He feels hurt. He feels peer pressure. He feels unloved perhaps.
2. Do the same with the victim. Allow the victim share his emotions in a safe and controlled environment such as with family and with a therapist. No answers or suggestions should be offered, just listening to the pain turn into words. It's important for the victim to learn to identify this pain and label them with emotional terms as well as have loving, understanding, non-judgmental and compassionate ear to hear them.
3. Bring step 1 and 2 together. A school counselor or principal should sit both the bully and the victim down together and allow them to explore their emotions in front of one another without any peer pressure or judgment. The moderator should not point fingers, threaten or even expect a resolution or apology. It should simply be done for both the bully and the victim to see the common humanity and emotion in the child sitting across from them. Deep deep down, nobody wants to hurt another person. However when the hurt is being fueled by an inadequate feeling about oneself or an inadequate way of expressing self-hatred it turns toward others in a toxic manner and becomes destructive and irreversible.
4. Create a game or environment where the bully or bullies need to rely on a single victim to achieve a goal. For instance a school or class-wide relay race. Most kids like competition and like winning. Set the teams up where the victim's team will win. Make it as competitive as possible but lop-side the athleticism. You don't want the victim's team to lose especially if one or more of his teammates is a bully. The bully will need to rely on the victim to win. Have the bully be the team captain and have the bully run last to complete the win. This strategy will vary depending on how many bullies and victims there are in the class. Also find common ground and hobbies between the victim and bully. Different variations of having the bully rely on the victim to win are just as good.
5. Identify one good thing that the victim does, can do or is passionate about and hyper-focus on that and find him peers or after school groups based around that. Make this his life force. If he has a passion for reading or bugs then find other kids who have passion for reading or bugs and create some type of group. Help him develop a lifelong dream and vision which his passions can help him achieve. This will give the child deep relationships with others as well as with himself. Doing one thing well can build immense self-confidence. Everyone can do one thing well and this will create a much greater value for life.
6. Find or create a support group for both victims and their parents. Victims should have a group with other children and a moderator where they can express their feelings and build camaraderie Parents should have a separate group. And a third group should be created where parents sit in on the victims group in order to show these kids that they have adults that care as well.
7. Have "recovered" bullies or groups of "recovered" bullies speak to the school. That will help create an environment where bullying is not cool causing bullies to become alienated. These groups should show public displays of acceptance towards the victims as well.
I hope this article helps identify some of the underlying factors in being a bully and a victim and what can help prevent and stop this from occurring in schools. These are just a few strategies, however they are strategies which are less conventional. These come not from teachers or politicians but from someone who has been on and watched both sides.
Feel free to share your comments, ideas or disagreements below!
Thank you,
David Margolies
4/15/2013
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Posted by · April 15, 2013 1:22 AM
Most of my life, from when i can remember, I was bullied. It started in elementary school because i wasnt a cool kid, i had a learning problem. All the girls in the school would make fun of me, call me names, hit me, ect. Once i go into middle school things got worse. I had something bad happen to me and the word got out, how i have no idea. Once it got out the rumors started, the name calling got worse and more nasty, the hits turned into punches and more. It hurt. My parents didnt know what to do because with everything i was going threw i started to rebel and do things to try to "fit in". So my parents sent me to live with my aunt and uncle in Arizona. That helped.... until school started. I went to a private school, but bullys are everywhere. These kids knew NOTHING about me and still called me names and we mean to me. i started to cut, and at the time it felt good, i knew it was wrong, but i felt like it was the only way to let it all go. After aobut a year of living with my aunt and uncle my mom and dad took me back to live with them in Las Vegas, Thats when things really went down hill. I was jumped more then once in a week for being a white girl, I would have things thrown at me, people (guys and girls would hit me, the rumors got worse then the ones before ect. I hated life. I stopped going to school. I tried to kill myself. But it didnt work. My parents put me into an institution thinking i was having some mental issues, but once i talked to the councilor there, they finally understood. They went to the school talked with the teachers i had and the dean, but they did nothing. This all continued until we moved to oregon, and it still happened, all because i was a new person with a not so rich family, i didnt wear name brand clothes, i looked different to them. Im now 21 years old, i have one friend, i have two kids, i have my family and thats it. I am scared to go out and try to make new friends because im scared of being hurt because no matter how old you are, you can still be bullied. If i had it my way, i would take every child, ever person who thinks its ok to bully others and i would sit them down and make them get to know the person they are bullying, Because maybe then they will see the real person and not who they THINK the person is. All because someone doesnt have nice clothes, looks different, has a learning problem ect. does NOT mean they deserve to be treated like a lesser human.
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